As always, I am going to clarify that no matter what your sexual orientation is, having a friend to bounce ideas off of when looking to find a life partner is helpful. As your friend shares more about what they see you being drawn to, you will become more acutely aware of your own patterns. Be curious when you go on dates, be the observer, ask questions about the other person and then begin making conscious clear choices about whether this is someone you would like to see again. Find someone in your life that is on a similar path of looking for a life partner. Team up with them, get to know each others “red flagsâ€, what qualities in a partner definitely do not work for you. It is so much easier when you have a trusted relationship to process with and to help you be honest with yourself. It is too easy for us to pull the wool over our own eyes and rationalize going after the same kind of partner over and over again…that same partner that does not get us what we want. Create this relationship with a friend this week and become one another’s dating guru.